Abstract
Speech norms, or ideas about how one should speak, are often taken for granted as common sense. But if we attempt to articulate them, we may in fact find ourselves giving only vague descriptions. This study reconsiders what speech norms are, or how they are conceptualised â a markedly understudied question. It examines native speakersâ metapragmatic comments concerning Japanese girlsâ/womenâs speech norms in posts on an online discussion forum. The analysis demonstrates considerably diverse views of norms, or different criteria used in evaluating language use â criteria related to the intersectionality of gender with other social and situational variables, including age, class status, and interpersonal relationships. The analysis of these diverse views reveals the âhiddenâ ideological biases, including sexism, in womenâs speech norms, which tend to be unquestioned as natural. The implications of the findings for situated language practice are considered.
1 Introduction
It is not uncommon to come across emotionally charged remarks concerning language use. Consider the following post to a Japanese online discussion forum.1
(1) Iâm reprimanded for my bad language use because Iâm a girl
Iâm a teenager. Iâm quite upset at my mother. First, I live abroad. For one thing, my language is pretty warui âbadâ (because) I use youth language a lot, like ~janÄ ka â~isnât it?â and maji? âreally?â But my mother is very annoying and tells me to use honorifics like ~desu ka âis it?â instead of ~janÄ ka, and hontÅ desu ka? âIs it true?â rather than maji? I donât think I need to use honorifics because itâs between family members. Usually, I talk back to her, but then my mother tells me not to talk back because it upsets her, and to use polite language because Iâm a girl ⦠! Itâs really annoying and nauseating. Is she saying that I canât talk freely because Iâm a girl? (8 lines omitted) (Hatsugen Komachi, Yomiuri Shinbun, June 9, 2023)
This comment from a teenage girl is the initial post of a thread on Hatsugen Komachi, an online discussion forum run by Yomiuri Shinbun, the Japanese national newspaper with the largest circulation. Hatsugen Komachi is widely viewed as primarily used by adult women.2 The writer, henceforth A, complains about her mother who nags (urusaku) her for using âbadâ language. She questions the idea that because she is a girl she shouldnât talk freely, suggesting that her motherâs complaint is sexist. While the thread in question was posted quite recently, in 2023, criticisms of Japanese womenâs language use are nothing new in the long history of Japan (e.g. Inoue, 2006; Nakamura, 2007, 2014; Okamoto and Shibamoto Smith, 2016; Okamoto and Morimoto, 2023).
The post in (1) received 54 responses3 expressing differing opinions, as shown in Table 1.



Distribution of opinions in responses to the initial post in (1)
Citation: Contrastive Pragmatics 7, 1 (2026) ; 10.1163/26660393-bja10150
One respondent (in Group 4) wrote: âAs we can see in this thread, there are many people who have an unbending theory of beki â(one) should ~.ââ This comment well characterises the nature of the posts by most other respondents, or âlanguage mavensâ (Cameron, 1995: viâvii) â laypersons who express their opinions on matters concerning language use and structure as though they were experts. These commentators are usually dogmatic and adamant that their views are correct. Despite language mavensâ insistence on the correctness of their opinions, however, they in fact differ greatly from each other, including even contrasting views (see, for example, Okamoto, 2021a for diverse views on the use of Japanese honorifics). The writers of the responses to Aâs initial post are no exception; they are all quite confident even when their views differ widely. In any event, to evaluate a particular language use as good, bad, or otherwise, one needs to resort to a certain criterion. That is, one must have specific ideas about how one should talk in a given situation, or what one believes to be a speech norm. But if what is believed to be the norm diverges significantly among native speakers, as seen in Table 1, it is likely that the same linguistic expression will be interpreted or perceived differently by different people.
Since norms of language use tend to be taken for granted as common sense, they may not be seriously questioned; they âexistâ in a kind of blind spot. Accordingly, the question of what constitutes norms of language use may escape scholarly scrutiny. Furthermore, no matter how much native speakersâ beliefs about speech vary, those beliefs serve to evaluate certain speech behaviour as (in)appropriate, (in)correct, and so forth, thereby regulating the social order (e.g. Cameron, 2014; McElhinny, 2014; Hall, Levon, and Milani, 2019; for Japanese, see Inoue, 2006; Nakamura, 2007, 2014). Accordingly, beliefs about speech norms have powerful effects on our social life, including womenâs lives. The analysis of the posts in this study not only reveals native speakersâ diverse views of speech norms, but also indicates how those different views, including Aâs motherâs view, which A thinks is sexist, are taken for granted as a matter of course even though they are in fact highly ideological. The content or meaning of norms, therefore, cannot be left unquestioned. Tackling this issue is in fact highly challenging, but it is vital for adequately understanding the complex and dynamic phenomena of situated language use and interpretation. The need for reconsideration of the notions of norms and normativity4 has been increasingly recognised in recent years, as discussed in the following section. And this study focuses on this very issue.
The article is organised as follows: Section 2 discusses theoretical issues relevant to this study; Section 3 describes the method used; Section 4 analyses and discusses metapragmatic comments from posts on the Hatsugen Komachi online discussion forum; Section 5 discusses the theoretical implications of the findings; and Section 6 presents the conclusion.
2 Theoretical Issues
This section discusses two interrelated theoretical issues important to this study: norms and normativity (2.1), and styling and multilevel and multimodal semiotic resources (2.2).
2.1 Norms and Normativity in Language, Gender, and Sexuality Research
It has been pointed out that early research on language and gender tended to focus on normative language, with special emphasis on womenâs language. As Bucholtz (1999: 9) observed, âMuch of the scholarship in language and gender has been what might be called âgood-girl researchâ: studies of âgoodâ (that is, normatively female â white, straight, middle-class) women being âgoodâ (that is, normatively feminine).â Likewise, discussing early language and gender research, Goodwin (1999: 388) noted, âresearchers assumed white middle-class American womenâs speech to be the norm.â Such an approach parallels that of early Japanese language and gender research, which focused on dichotomous menâs and womenâs language that represented behavioural norms of men and women based on middle and upper-middle class speakers in Tokyo (see Okamoto and Shibamoto Smith, 2004, 2016; Inoue, 2006, among others). In other words, early research on language and gender was itself ideologically biased.
Recognising the partiality and limitations of such early language and gender research, a large number of studies, especially since the 1990s, began investigating the language use of socially and situationally diverse âmenâ and âwomen.â Importantly, these studies are based on empirical data, which helped reveal many nonnormative uses. For example, studies documented many cases in which socially diverse women do not always conform to the normatively feminine speech style, or the stereotypical idea of womenâs language as cooperative, supportive, and nonconfrontational (e.g. Goodwin, 1999; Mendoza-Denton, 1999). Japanese women also have been found to use linguistic forms, such as specific sentence-final forms (SFFâs) and personal reference terms, that are considered menâs language (e.g. Okamoto and Sato, 1992; Miyazaki, 2004; Sunaoshi, 2004). Furthermore, this nonessentialist approach also meant increasing attention to issues concerning sexuality and language, including language use in LGBTQ+ communities (e.g. Land and Kitzinger, 2005; Levón, 2012; Dawson, 2019; for Japanese, see Abe, 2010; Maree, 2020) and the discursive reproduction of heteronormativity to reinforce hegemony (e.g. Gill, 2014; Jones, 2016; Kiesling, 2002; Mills, 2008; Talbot, 2014; Zhu et al., 2025; for Japanese, see Nakamura, 2004, 2007, 2013, 2025; Shibamoto Smith, 2004).
While these nonessentialist studies as a whole have greatly advanced language, gender, and sexuality research, there remain certain outstanding issues. One such issue, the focus of this study, concerns the notion of a norm and its role in actual language practice. The constructionist approach has drawn on Butlerâs (1990) work regarding gender as performative, and has tended to emphasise the agency and creativity of language use; much less attention has been placed on âthe highly rigid regulatory frameâ (Ehrlich and Meyerhoff, 2014; McElhinny, 2014) that is another important aspect of Butlerâs (1990: 33) performative theory. Hall, Levon, and Milani (2019: 482â483), in their introduction to a Language in Society special issue on normativity, called attention to a recent critique of queer theory for taking an antiessentialist and anti(hetero)normative approach to gender, which ironically resorts to the concept of normativity, a concept not clearly defined (see also Wiegman and Wilson, 2015). As Hall et al. underscored, the papers in the special issue asserted âthe need to avoid overly simplistic dichotomies between what is ânormativeâ and what is âantinormative,â and instead to illustrate the various strategies individuals adopt to negotiate multiple, dynamic, overlapping, and at times, contradictory normativities (Abu-Lughod 1990; Gal 1995)â (485).
The diversity and multiplicity of normativities seem to be closely related to the intersectionality of social categories as well as variability across time and locale. Gender by definition intersects with a variety of social and situational variables, which may be what gives rise to diverse ideas about speech norms. Hall et al. (2019: 484) contended that âwe cannot speak of a singular ânormativityâ organizing social practice. Instead, we must consider the multiple and competing normativities that are available for individuals to draw upon.â Blommaert (2007: 2â3), in a discussion of transnational communities, further explicated the nature of normativity:
[H]uman social environments [need] to be seen as polycentric and stratified, where people continuously need to observe ânormsâ â orders of indexicality â that are attached to a multitude of centers of authority, local as well as translocal, momentary as well as lasting: the family, the peer group and the immediate neighborhood networks; religion, the media, transnational networks, the State (both home and host), the labor market, and abstract ideals and role models (e.g., gender and social status roles). Such orders of indexicality [are] stratified complexes in which distinctions exist between âbetterâ and âworseâ forms of communication, and in diasporic neighborhoods, such orders of indexicality combine and compete: one can be a âgoodâ user of language in the neighborhood network, but a âbadâ one in the labor market or in the host Stateâs school system.
The nature of norms thus understood requires us to examine the complexity of situated sociolinguistic practice, as illustrated by scores of empirical studies. Due to space limitations, I refer to only one such study here. In their study of gay Palestinians in Israel as represented in the documentary film Oriented, Milani and Levon (2019) found that the experience of these gay men cannot be accounted for in terms of a singular normativity, such as normative homonationalism, dominant among Israeli gay men. This is because their lived experience is simultaneously normative and nonnormative, as these men feel ambivalence between being âattached to Israel,â imagined as a homotopia, and âunmoored,â or âliberated and deeply constrained,â due to multiple normativities concerning gender and (homo)sexuality, nationality, and region, inter alia (625).
2.2 Styling and Multimodal and Multilevel Semiotic Resources
Another key theoretical issue for this study concerns the use of multilevel and multimodal semiotic resources for styling. This issue is closely related to the multiplicity of concepts of norms, discussed in the preceding section. As emphasised above, an individualâs sociolinguistic practice cannot be adequately understood in terms of binary distinctions, such as normative versus nonnormative, appropriate versus inappropriate, feminine versus masculine, or standard versus nonstandard. This is because every sociolinguistic interaction is likely to involve multiple normativities, and because any given use of a linguistic form may not clearly fit into an oppositional pattern (e.g. as either normative or nonnormative). The styling in which each speaker engages in each social context is thus a complex process of choosing among a variety of semiotic resources while negotiating the relevant multiple norms. The term âstylingâ is, therefore, more appropriate than âstyleâ to refer to oneâs sociolinguistic practice, as noted in Couplandâs (2007: 2) argument that âwhat matters for linguistic style is more to do with process than with product, more to do with use than with structure. Stylistic analysis is the analysis of how style resources are put to work creatively.â
But what are âstyle resourcesâ? As discussed earlier, the âcontentâ of speech norms, or normative speech styles, is usually quite vague or abstract. In the case of language and gender, normatively feminine and masculine styles are commonly characterised in terms of contrasting abstract characteristics pertaining to speakersâ qualities and stances, such as cooperative/conflictive, nonassertive/assertive, indirect/direct, submissive/dominant, polite/rough, and so forth (e.g. Eckert and McConnell-Ginet, 2013; Goodwin, 1999; Nakamura, 2007; Okamoto and Shibamoto Smith, 2008, 2016). Irvine (2001: 22) characterised styles as âpart of a system of distinction, in which a style contrasts with other possible styles, and the social meaning signified by the style contrasts with other social meanings.â Such contrasting styles (e.g. feminine and masculine styles) are shaped by a set of style resources, or variants of variables, that are ideologically and hierarchically ordered, constituting part of the relevant âorders of indexicalityâ (Blommaert, 2007, 2010). That is, a particular linguistic form â for instance, one of the two pronunciations of -ing (i.e. [Å] and [n]) in English â may not straightforwardly express a particular social meaning, such as male/female or middle-class/working-class, but is considered to index such meanings by ideologically linking the pragmatic meanings, or stances and qualities (e.g. formal vs. informal), associated with the variant forms to particular social categories â a process termed âindirect indexingâ (Ochs, 1992; Eckert, 2008).
Needless to say, numerous style resources are available to speakers, including multilevel and multimodal semiotic resources, the use of which is increasingly recognised as important to investigate for a better understanding of the process of styling (Goodwin, 1999; Maree, 2020; Starr, Wang, and Go, 2020; Okamoto, 2018; Okamoto and Morimoto, 2023). And those resources need to be used in a coordinated and coherent manner (e.g. Irvine, 2001: 22). In practice, however, this may not be a simple enterprise because, as discussed earlier, there are complexities arising from a variety of contextual contingencies, such as multiply relevant normativities, the nonbinary nature of a single normativity (e.g. femininity, politeness), and ideologically diverse views of a particular normativity, as illustrated in Section 4.
Examining metapragmatic comments on Japanese womenâs speech, this study investigates one of the understudied issues in language and gender research, namely, native speakersâ diverse views of speech norms, which I believe will lead to better understanding of the highly ideological nature of speech norms, including the sexist expectations toward womenâs language use.
3 Method
I examine native speakersâ metapragmatic comments expressed in the thread of posts introduced in Section 1 â the initial post from a teenage girl and 54 responses to it. As seen in Table 1, the responses are diverse, most of them falling into three major groups.5 This suggests that respondents are conceptualising different kinds of speech norms. I examine these differences to see what kinds of criteria and ideologies for evaluation are involved in each of the three groups of posts and how intersectionality is relevant to this diversity.
4 Diverse Ideas of Norms Revealed in Metapragmatic Comments
The results of analyses of the initial post and the three main groups in Table 1 are presented in the following order: the initial post (4.1), normativity concerning womenâs speech (4.2), normativity concerning class status (4.3), and normativity that depends on the context (4.4).
4.1 Initial Post: Ideological Clash between a Teenage Girl and Her Mother
Example (1), the initial post of the thread, indicates that the writer, A, and her mother believe in different kinds of norms for girlsâ speech. Aâs mother criticises A for using expressions such as ~janÄ ka â~isnât?â and maji? âreally?â and tells A to use honorifics and not talk back. Thus, if Aâs report is accurate, her mother appears to believe that girls/women should speak in a polite and submissive manner, indicating the influence of the hegemonic ideology of femininity.
Aâs concept of speech norms, on the other hand, concerns age (youthfulness) and interpersonal relationship (intimacy). She regards expressions like ~janÄ ka and maji? as part of wakamono otoba âyouth languageâ and even though she admits that her language is kanari warui âpretty bad,â she is bothered by her motherâs criticism because A thinks it is all right to use it among young people and among familiar people like family members â an ideology that prioritises age and relationship rather than gender. In other words, she seems to believe that oneâs language use depends on the context, like the posters in Group 2. Aâs post also indicates that she is upset about the sexism âhiddenâ in her motherâs (and societyâs) expectations about womenâs speech, which constrain women more than men.
4.2 Women Should Not Use Bad Language (Group 3 Responses)
Let us now consider the responses to Aâs post, starting with Group 3 in Table 1, which constitutes 22% (12 posts) of the total responses. These responses agree with Aâs mother that women should not use âroughâ or âbadâ language. Many responses in this group stress that womenâs ways of speaking reveal their social backgrounds, such as class status, upbringing, refinement, and/or education â an ideology built on the intersection of gender and class. This is illustrated in Example (2).
(2) Language use is reflected in your face
If you keep using hidoi âterrible/badâ and ranbÅna âroughâ language, your face will look like that. If your language use is hin no aru ârefined,â your face also will look refined. (5 lines omitted) Letâs stop using menâs language and shift to womenâs language. This is also important in getting a job. Women who insist on using menâs language do not have a good life. So, if you can rectify it, you should. (Hatsugen Komachi, June 10, 2023)
This writerâs comments convey the beliefs that there are distinct womenâs and menâs languages, that women should use the former, that their speech is a sign of womenâs class status, and that womenâs use of womenâs language serves as an asset, or linguistic capital (Bourdieu, 1999), which will help them obtain an attractive face and a good life.
A few respondents in this group admit gender discrimination in the norms for womenâs speech. One of them, while acknowledging the importance of gender equality, concedes to Aâs motherâs view, as follows.
(3) I tend to be sensitive to the issue of gender equality, but
When I brought up my daughter, I used the phrase âbecause you are a girlâ a number of times. To be honest, I didnât like it, but in Japan there still remains gender discrimination. (6 lines omitted) And if you cannot be taken seriously by the man you love because of your bad language, you wonât be able to change his mind no matter how much you scream about gender equality. (8 lines omitted). (Hatsugen Komachi, June 11, 2023)
The writer of (3) supports gender equality but succumbs to what she believes to be the real world in which men (still) expect women not to use bad language.
The writer of (4) is very critical of Aâs language use, referring to it as sonna kotoba âsuch languageâ and ranbÅna kotoba ârough language.â
(4) Oh, my
~janÄ ka. Where did you learn such language? Iâve never heard or used it. Even the young people on TV are not using it, although Iâve heard it in dramas, like âIrun janÄ ka, detekoi, kora. âArenât you there? Come out, hey.ââ I think itâs a pretty ranbÅna âroughâ language. Is it ossan kotoba âolder menâs languageâ? (Sorry, older men.) Or is it inaka kotoba ârural languageâ (Sorry, rural people). (Hatsugen Komachi, June 11, 2023)
By wondering whether Aâs language is ossan kotoba or inaka kotoba, this writer also suggests that girls should not use either one.
4.3 Regardless of Gender, One Should Not Use Bad Language (Group 1 Responses)
Group 1 in Table 1 constitutes the largest number of responses, at 43% (23 posts). The writers in this group express the belief that the issue is not relevant only to women, but to everyone, as clearly stated in Example (5).
(5) Thatâs right, isnât it?
Your mother is wrong, right? Itâs not because âyou are a girl,â but danjo kankei naku âregardless of gender,â it is kitanai âbadâ language use. Even if a man uses it, it displeases the addressee. (4 lines omitted) (Hatsugen Komachi, June 9, 2023)
Many writers who share this view also emphasise that using kitanai âbadâ language has to do with oneâs social background, especially poor upbringing, as exemplified by (6).
(6) Oh, thatâs not it
Itâs not youth language. But isnât your sodachi âupbringingâ bad? We have a teenage son, but he doesnât use such language even to family members. We donât use honorifics at home, but we donât use kitanai âbadâ language. (8 lines omitted) (Hatsugen Komachi, June 10, 2023)
This writer explicitly asserts that the use of âbadâ language is neither a matter of youth nor a matter of gender, but rather has to do with the userâs upbringing.
Several writers in this group also point out positive values of using good language, as seen in (7).
(7) Buki âWeaponâ
If you seriously think you want to convey your thoughts to adults, you must speak calmly using tadashÄ« âcorrectâ language. If your language is ranbÅ âroughâ as you wrote in your post, rigid (in thinking) adults will not listen to you even if it is a valid opinion. You should study polite and correct language seriously, thinking it is a weapon for asserting your opinions. (3 lines omitted) (Hatsugen Komachi, June 11, 2023)
This writer suggests that one should use tadashÄ« âcorrectâ and teineina âpoliteâ language because it can be a buki âweaponâ that compels others to listen to oneâs opinions. The ability to use correct and polite language is thus ideologically regarded as a form of linguistic capital (Bourdieu, 1999).
The writers of (8) and (9) also deem using bad language to be a sign of class status, as they relate it to poor education and vulgarity. In addition, the writer of (8) comments on youth language, and that of (9) on the issue of gender inequality.
(8) May language be beautiful
A young person like you may think that rough language is somewhat trendy and cool, but yononaka no daitasÅ« âmost people in societyâ do not think so. They regard such ranbÅna âroughâ language use as gehin âvulgarâ and [demonstrating] chiteki reberu ga hikui âa low level of intelligence.â (Hatsugen Komachi, June 11, 2023)
(9) Itâs a life-long problem
When told to correct your language use because you are a girl, you want to rebut, saying, âIf itâs a boy, is it OK?â Itâs kind of understandable. But if you use that kind of language, you are of course, seen as kyÅyÅ ga naku âuneducatedâ and gehin âvulgarâ not as a girl but as a (decent) person. (7 lines omitted) (Hatsugen Komachi, June 10, 2023)
The writer of (8) argues that although young people may find rough language to have positive meanings, such as being trendy and cool, the majority of people disagree, regarding its users as vulgar and unintelligent, regardless of gender. By resorting to what âmost people in societyâ think, the writer indicates that it is common sense â something that everyone should know. Like the writer of Example (3), the writer of (9) first concedes that it is understandable that A is upset about the sexism underlying womenâs speech norms. Yet, she maintains that it is important to not use bad language if A does not wish to be seen as an âuneducatedâ and âvulgarâ woman.
Three posts in Group 1 also referred to regional dialects. Example (10) is one of them.
(10) Thatâs right, isnât it?
(2 lines omitted) If I heard someone, a man or woman, says janÄ ka yo, I would react like ee â âwhat?â I wonder which regional dialect it is. Iâm about your motherâs age and have a daughter and a son. If either one of them used such language, Iâd be flabbergasted. Iâm used to kitanai âbadâ language because I live in a region whose dialect is considered kitsui âharshâ by people in other regions. Yet, I donât want my children to use such language. (6 lines omitted) (Hatsugen Komachi, June 10, 2023)
According to this writer, regional dialects are not good language for anybody, women or men â and certainly not for herself or her children, even though they live in an area where a regional dialect is spoken. (See Section 4.4 for further discussion on this matter.)
4.4 The Acceptability of Language Use Depends on the Context (Group 2 Responses)
Group 2 in Table 1 constitutes 26% (14 posts) of all responses. Although details differ, the responses in this group all share the idea that language use depends on the context and that it is all right for young people to use the kind of language A is talking about among friends, but not elsewhere. This is illustrated in Example (11).
(11) TPO
Youth language has existed in all times. There are, of course, people who do not use it, but I think it is all right to use it, but only among friends. Even among family members, it should not be used toward parents because parents and children are not equal. (2 lines omitted) Do you by any chance use it to people other than your friends, like your teachers? If so, you should make an effort to correct it now because you will be in trouble when you start working. (Hatsugen Komachi, June 11, 2023)
As demonstrated in the heading of the post in (11), the writers in Group 2 emphasise the âTPOâ â time, place, occasion â of language use. Many of them consider the language A is talking about inappropriate to use toward adults or people who are not friends. They also underscore that using good language can be an asset in adult life. These writers thus assume that different kinds of norms should apply to different social contexts.
The writer of Example (12) also subscribes to the idea of TPO. She also brings up an issue concerning regional dialects.
(12) Language use is TPO
If you understand TPO and differentiate language use according to the situation, I donât think itâs a problem. I (obasan âolder womanâ) am close to 60 years old and have been zÅ«tto kuchi ga warukatta âusing bad language all these years.â
The language of the place in which I was born and grew up was kitanakute âbadâ and when I used my dialect, my mother warned me against it. So, by the time I went to elementary school, I was hyÅjungoppoi hanashikata o shiteta âspeaking kind of standard Japanese.â But still that was like the so-called otoko kotoba âmenâs language.â The friends I had as I grew older were all alike using kuchi ga warukatta âbad language.â
Even now my language is bad. I talk with my daughter using muchakucha na âtopsy-turvyâ language. I speak somewhat carefully toward my husband, but it is basically arappoi ârough.â But it doesnât matter because Iâm seen as a person who differentiates language use according to the situation. My friends from student times usually used ossoroshÄ« âawfulâ language, but they changed it when they talked with their teachers, parents, workers, and strangers. (7 lines omitted) (Hatsugen Komachi, June 12, 2023)
The writer of this post shares the negative view of regional dialects seen in Examples (4) and (10) but expresses it more extensively, suggesting the powerful influence of the standard language ideology (Milroy, 2001) underlying the Japanese government policy enforced since the beginning of modern Japan. According to this ideology, standard Japanese is correct and good language, and regional dialects are incorrect and bad (Lee, 1996; Okamoto and Shibamoto Smith, 2016). The writer of (12) characterises the dialect spoken in her hometown with quite negative attributes, such as warui âbad,â kitanai âbad,â mechakucha âtopsy-turvy,â arappoi ârough,â and ossoroshÄ« âawful,â and explains that she uses it daily but not exclusively, because she (as well as her friends) alters her language use to adapt to the situation.
Lastly, many writers in all three groups expressed their conviction that language use can be an asset that helps one to appear educated, refined, taken seriously, and the like â a constructionistâs view that language does not simply reflect the context, but rather can be used creatively to construct it.
5 Discussion
This section discusses the following theoretical issues related to the findings presented in Section 4: intersectionality and diverging views of norms (5.1); ideologies, speech norms, and indexical meanings (5.2); and implications for styling in situated practice (5.3).
5.1 Intersectionality and Diverging Views of Norms
We saw in the preceding section diverging ideas that native speakers of Japanese have about how one (in this case, a teenage girl) should talk. What gave rise to this divergence? The analysis indicates that even though the heading of the initial post (i.e. âIâm reprimanded for my bad language use because Iâm a girlâ) concerns only girls/women, it is not only gender that the respondents to the initial post took into consideration in evaluating Aâs language use. This is because A is not just a girl but can be described in terms of many other social and contextual variables. Accordingly, in evaluating a personâs speech, some people may focus on one variable and others on other variables. Importantly, however, social and contextual factors do not directly govern the evaluation of language use because such evaluation is by definition an ideological process, as discussed in Sections 2 and 5.2.
Table 2 is a modified version of Table 1. The third column of Table 2 shows the criteria used in evaluating Aâs language use that are common to all posts in each group, and the fourth column, criteria mentioned in only some of the posts.



Views of speech norms observed in responses to the initial post in (1)
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As evident in Table 2, different people focused on different social and contextual aspects of A as a person, as she represents herself in her post. Group 1 writers focus on class status. Group 2 considers more than one aspect (i.e. age, intimacy), assuming different norms for different social situations. Group 3 focuses on gender. Some respondents in all three groups (five writers altogether) also used another criterion, namely standard Japanese as opposed to rural dialects, which they consider kitanai âbadâ and inappropriate for an educated/decent person or girl to use.
Note that while Tables 1 and 2 illustrate the diversity in the views of speech norms, the majority of posters on Hatsugen Komachi are presumed to be adult women (note 2). An analysis of metapragmatic commentary from different social groups, such as teenage girls or men/boys, might well have results that exhibit different views of norms â a topic for future study.
5.2 Ideologies, Speech Norms, and Indexical Meanings
Let us look at Table 3. The first column lists the linguistic forms mentioned in the discussion thread in question divided into two levels: âgoodâ forms (first row) and âbadâ forms (second row); the second column shows the attributes (qualities and stances) of those linguistic forms noted by posters; and the third column corresponds to social groups of speakers deemed to use the forms in the first column.



Stratified indexicality indicated by the responses to the initial post in (1)
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As evident in Table 3, the same linguistic forms are perceived quite differently by different people. Eckert (2008: 455) argued:
[T]he very fact that the same linguistic variables may stratify regularly with multiple categories â e.g. gender, ethnicity, and class â indicates that their meanings are not directly related to these categories but to something that is related to all of them. In other words, variables index demographic categories not directly but indirectly (Silverstein 1985), through their association with qualities and stances that enter into the construction of categories.
The link between a particular linguistic form/variable and the kind of speakers assumed to use that variable is made via the pragmatic meanings (or qualities and stances) associated with the variable (see Ochs, 1992 for a discussion of indirect indexicality). This link is undoubtedly ideological because not all women or educated people use âgoodâ language. Rather, these are stereotypical images of persons of a particular social group (e.g. women/men, people in higher/lower social classes, urban/rural residents) interacting in particular social situations (e.g. speaking with a stranger or a familiar person, or on formal/informal occasions). That is, Table 3 illustrates hierarchically ordered indexical signs that comprise part of what Blommaert (2010: 38) called âorders of indexicality,â that is, indexicalities âthat operate within large stratified complexes.â The view of womenâs speech norms that Aâs mother maintains treats men and women unequally as part of stratified orders of indexicality. Moreover, the normative view of womenâs speech does not concern only gender inequality but also inequality related to class status, regions (i.e. centre vs. periphery), and standings of varieties of Japanese, as these are all part of the âlarge stratified complexesâ of the orders of indexicality associated with the use of the Japanese language.
5.3 Implications for Styling in Situated Practice
Evidently, native speakers are highly aware of what they believe to be the norms for each social situation, but this does not mean that they always conform to such norms in situated language practice, as demonstrated by previous studies (e.g. articles in Okamoto and Shibamoto Smith, 2004). How then do speakers as social actors choose the linguistic (and other semiotic) forms that shape their speech style? It seems that speakers do negotiate speech norms in a given situation, but how? While this question calls for serious future research, I present in what follows a couple of examples from previous studies that may offer some clues.
Okamoto and Morimoto (2023) examined eight dyadic conversations of male and female college students with regard to the use of seven normatively gendered multilevel variables. They found that in contrast to the common perception that gender difference among young speakers has decreased considerably, the participantsâ use of these variables was largely gendered except for the use of SFFâs, which was hardly gendered. This suggests that linguistic gender norms are highly but not always relevant to actual practice. Furthermore, their language use was much more complex in its details. Two women, for example, used normatively feminine forms in mixed gender conversations more frequently than in same-sex conversations, suggesting the effects of heteronormative expectations depending on the interlocutor. However, they largely avoided feminine SFFââs, which are often associated with older or mature women (e.g. Inoue, 2006). Thus, one of the conclusions Okamoto and Morimoto drew was that the female participants used masculine or neutral SFFââs to construct their youthfulness, while at the same time they attempted to construct femininity by using other variables considered feminine, although the degree of their use differed depending on the context, including the interlocutorâs gender.
In another example, Okamoto (2021b) included a comparison of two conversations: one between two standard-Japanese-speaking female college students from Gunma and the other between two elderly women who spoke Yamagata dialect. In both cases, the participants were close friends. The study focused on the use of two kinds of normatively strongly masculine forms:6 SFFâs and the phonological form [Ä], a contraction of [ai] and [oi] (e.g. janÄ instead of ja nai âis notâ). Here, I only discuss the results of the latter because it corresponds to one of the forms criticised by Aâs mother (i.e. ~janÄ ka). Table 4 shows the results.7
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The use of the normatively strongly masculine form [Ä]
Citation: Contrastive Pragmatics 7, 1 (2026) ; 10.1163/26660393-bja10150
Source: Based on Table 1 in Okamoto (2021b)As shown in Table 4, all four women used this strongly masculine form, but they differed in the quantity of its use â and in the quality. The two Gunma women used the contracted [Ä] only 10% and 23% of the time and when they used it, they accompanied it with some kind of hedge, including laughter and tte kanji âlikeâ (e.g. while laughing: atama hakaraka n̲Ä̲ shi âMy mind is not workingâ). Such use of hedges suggests that they were aware that they should not use a ranbÅna âroughâ form like [Ä]. In contrast, the two Yamagata women used it 67% and 87% of the time, and without any hedges (e.g. shoppagu n̲Ä̲ na âitâs not salty, right?â); they laughed, but only when the talk involved funny content. This suggests that these women considered the use of [Ä] as part of their normal speech and not strongly masculine, regardless of its perception as rough, bad, and unfeminine by those who uphold the hegemonic, standard Japanese, ideology of womenâs speech. Moreover, unlike the Gunma women, the Yamagata women also used masculine SFFâs and did not use feminine SFFâs. As argued by Blommaert (2010: 80):
â[T]he margin,â so to speak, is not necessarily a space in which people fail to meet norms, but it can as well be seen as a space in which different but related norms are produced, responding â âecologically,â so to speak â to the local possibilities and limitations.
Importantly, however, according to Okamoto (2021b), even though the Yamagata women used normatively masculine [Ä] and SFFâs extensively, they did not totally ignore (hegemonic) norms of womenâs speech. In fact, they constructed a polite and cooperative, that is, âfeminine,â speech style by using forms such as humble expressions and backchannels to indicate listenership. Thus, neither the Gunma nor the Yamagata womenâs language use can be accounted for in terms of a simple binary criterion such as normative versus nonnormative.
6 Conclusion
In examining native speakersâ metapragmatic comments concerning Japanese womenâs speech, this study found considerably diverse and complex views of norms of language use. The findings suggest that in actual language practice, speakers negotiate multiple norms, or what they believe to be norms, for a variety of social situations; and they negotiate them in complex ways and choose forms for their desired styling.
Regarding the theme of this special issue, this study revealed not only that the hegemonic view of womenâs speech norms is ideological, based on gender inequality, but also that it is at the same time intertwined with inequality concerning other social and linguistic variables, including class, region, and varieties of Japanese, which are all part of the hierarchical orders of indexicality.
This study presents only a step toward better understanding of the diversity, multiplicity, and fluidity of speech norms. Further research is called for to investigate how speech norms are conceptualised by socially diverse speakers, for diverse social contexts, and in different historical times.
Acknowledgements
I thank Professor Momoko Nakamura and anonymous reviewers for their valuable comments on the earlier version of this paper. I also thank the journalâs editor-in-chief Daniel Kádár for his encouragement and patience during the period of preparation of this special issue.
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Biographical Note
Shigeko Okamoto is Professor Emerita in the Department of Languages and Applied Linguistics at the University of California, Santa Cruz. Her areas of research include pragmatics, discourse analysis, sociocultural linguistics, and functional linguistics. She has published extensively, including The Social Life of the Japanese Language (co-authored, 2016) and Japanese Language, Gender, and Ideology: Cultural Models and Real People (co-edited, 2004).
Due to space constraints, only the English translations of the Japanese posts are shown, although some important words are given in Japanese in the discussion.
According to Wikipedia, Hatsugen Komachi started in 1999 and is known as a site where women can bring up their concerns involving topics such as children, work, women and men, health, beauty, and the like (https://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/
This number excludes three posts by A that appeared toward the end of the thread, which are not discussed here.
The term ânormativityâ is used in the sense that some behaviour (here language use) meets norms or expected standards of behaviour.
Group 4 is not discussed because the opinions were disparate.
The gender classification of linguistic forms followed Okamoto and Sato (1992).
All relevant cases of [ai] and [oi] and [Ä] were counted.
